How many times have you been in an argument and before you know it you are yelling about things that have nothing to do with what you were initially arguing about? Often times whatever the initial incident is acts as the match to the powder keg. It may have not been much of an issue, but it effectively serves as a catalyst for many other things.
It is not an uncommon practice for people to hold onto things that anger or bother them. They consider an anger management tool by trying to look past it, forget about it, and move on. However, this only works if you are able to forgive whatever or whomever you are mad at in the first place. Otherwise you end up holding onto these issues and risking them turning a small, minor one into a much larger one later.
A simple tool that many of us learned when we were toddlers can be instrumental in properly managing your anger in situations like the one described above. Our parents told us to share our toys with others when we were playing; the exact same thing is what you need to do when issues arise between you and people you know. Holding onto feelings that upset and make us anger is not a good thing to do. Share your feelings with the person that made you angry and you take the first step towards not only resolving your issue, but managing your anger as well.
Of course, this method of anger management is pointless if you don’t go about it the right way. Explode and tell someone what an idiot they are for screwing up whatever it was and you might feel a little better, but you are also likely to still have some serious issues with that person still. What you have to remember is that how you express those feelings when you are in the midst of sharing them.
Share and express your feelings and you will not only find it easier to manage your anger, but you will find you will have healthier relationships with the people in your lives.
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